The Christmas period ends and we’re quickly inundated with diet talk.
Diet talk is toxic. It’s everywhere. It finds an unwanted place in our social media feeds and lands itself in our junk emails and damages the ways in which we think and feel about ourselves and our bodies.
It saddens me that we’re a society who believe that we can only indulge if we compensate later on. Shouldn’t we be transforming the way we think about food, and turning our guilt into satisfaction?
Reminder: You don’t have to change your bodies in order to love them. Self acceptance is integral and therefore comes from within.
I’m recovering from Anorexia Nervosa. My largest priorities are myself and my journey and I refuse to be affected by damaging words and false actions.
This January, I won’t be joining the gym, because my focus is on restoring weight to a healthy level rather than getting fit. And I won’t be cutting out foods. I’ll be putting my energies into healing and placing factors of enjoyment in my life that hold a larger and more significant value.
I struggle to tolerate diet talk. Though it may sound silly, when you have an Eating Disorder you can easily become fixated by the behaviours and actions of others. Comparison becomes the worst enemy and you begin to believe that if somebody else is losing weight, that this automatically means you should do the same. It turns into a competition. If a “fitness” influencer on Instagram brands pasta as being the devil (which, by the way, is ridiculous!) than it must be nothing but true.
Although I truly believe that people speak about their plans without the intentions of being purposely triggering, it’s always beneficial to have coping mechanisms at bay!
Don’t be afraid to reach out. If tackling diet talk is a trigger for you, mention it to somebody you trust so that techniques can be implemented to enable you to cope.
Become a master of changing conversation topics. I’ve been working on this over the years, and now, whenever I hear triggering things being mentioned I’m quick to change the conversation topic into something I’m comfortable with. It’s also a good distraction technique!
Check in yourself and ask yourself regularly if you’re okay. Or whether you’re just putting on a brave face to please others. Place happy distractions in your day to day routine to issue yourself with an alternative focus.
Focus on making your recovery your largest priority. Healing is important and requires your full attention and energy. It’s easy to get caught up in the actions and intentions of others, and it’s totally not selfish to put yourself and your needs first.
Educate others. If people you’re surrounded with are making things difficult for you to tolerate, speak to them about it. This’ll encourage them to stop and then the triggers will be reduced significantly.
Check who you’re following on social media, and question whether it’s benefitting you or causing you to feel bad about yourself. Don’t be afraid of unfriending friends. Make your social media platforms a safe place and follow positive accounts. It’s easy to become affected by the words and images we’re exposed to online.
Be kind to yourself, and be patient with where you’re at.
Happy New Year, and all the best for 2020.
Lots of love,